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What is Your Major Stress in Life?

What is your major stress in life? A few nights back, while queuing in a drive thru, my kids & I were talking about our personalities. We’re making fun of ourselves, and had a good laugh about it. On a serious side, I blurted out that I was a people pleaser. I wanted people to like me, and yes, it has been a major source of stress for me. It has been that way for me. I want to please my parents, siblings, teachers, classmates, bosses, co workers, hubby, kids, etc. I feel disappointment in myself, if I perceive that I don’t come up to their expectations. I feel ashamed of myself, if I deemed that I fail my children, whether imagined or not. These negative feeling does take a toll on my wellbeing. It took years learning this feeling of inadequacy, so it also took years to unlearn it. It is only through God’s mercy and love,  that I am able to accept myself, love myself. It is only through God’s unconditional love, that I am able to say, that  I  AM  ENOUGH.  I am a work in progress,

Bloom Where You Are Planted

Early this morning I was tending a pot of plant and it was blooming with flowers. I was watering it and the famous phrase "bloom where you are planted" popped into my mind. Now, as we midlife women trudged on the other half of our life, we too can bloom or rather continue to bloom and achieve to age gracefully in midlife.

Never let anything or anyone let us think otherwise. A week back during one of our coffee breaks, the topic of age was blurted out. Some are hesitant to mention their age, there are banterings of age guessing, while I, proudly said aloud, I am 52. I added, if you didn't reach that age, you're probably 6 feet below the ground.

That conversation somehow touched a dismal chord in me. Not because, I was insecure about my age, quite the opposite, in fact, I am proud of my age, but it is brought by the realization that younger people do value youth.

While it's only a passing musing of heralding youth, I want to bring forth that indeed life begins once again at 50. The first half of our life, started at birth followed by childhood, puberty, adulthood, menopausal and the last stage before the passing of life. If you keep your self fit and healthy, present medical researches show that one can live until 85 years of age or longer.

Whether you're a stay at home mom, work at home mom, an employee or a businesswoman, you can be successful in your chosen field. Each field has its own duties & responsibilities to adhere with. A stay at home mom does not have a lesser value compared with women who are working or has a business of their own. Stay at home moms are not inferior to women who are earning a living because these women are full-time mothers to their kids and most of the time they help with the bills by keeping side jobs like tutoring or selling different items.

Midlife women face many trials and have undergone the ups and downs in life. We have seen the different facets of life, the joys, peals of laughter and tears that life has offered. Midlife women have the wisdom lacking forth in young people because of the various people and experiences we encountered through the years. Wisdom does indeed come with age because it is measured through time.

Many women have reinvented themselves in midlife. Laura Ingall Wilders published her first book when she was 65 years old. Vera Wang designed her first dress when she was 40, Anna Mary Robertson known also as Grandma Moses, had her first big break in painting when she was 78 and Susan Boyle, started her full-time singing career when at 47, she auditioned at Britain's Got Talent. These are just a few women who are late bloomers and became successful in their later years. For sure before their successes, they had encountered many trials and setbacks but these did not stop them in pursuing their dreams. They have these never give up attitude shared by less famous women who became successful in their midlife years.

If you are in the midst of trials right now, remain steadfast, ask for help or advise from family and friends. Don't be afraid to open up and be open-minded to their bits of advice. Don't rush with your decisions, continue to grow by learning from your mistakes, flourish by being not afraid to reinvent yourself in midlife. Remain faithful to God and you will see the purpose behind your trials. It may be to strengthen you to help your family, to deepen your relationship with the Lord or it may be to give comfort and be a blessing to others.

Bloom where you are planted.

Have you any stories to share how in the midst of trials you flourished and bloomed where you are planted?

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Middle life is beautiful.

Till next time. God bless.


  1. It’s really an impressive and creative work. I agree with Jami that shadowing would have been great. It is nice anyway.

  2. mel, you are a beautiful writer! this post really touches me because I am reinventing myself right now---started 5 years ago, but really major things happening right now...i am 48.5...and as my children go away to college and it's just me, i want to grow my small business, blog often and frequently, and continue to create beauty in textiles..i went to college and studied biology and worked for a pharmaceutical company, but i do nothing related to it now--i make it's possible to re-create and re-invent oneself!
    xo eva

    1. Hi Eva! Thank you, I appreciate it that my blog post has connected to you, in a way that it encourages you more to be productive & creative. As a midlife woman, I truly believe that our golden year is a commencement of a new beginning for us. Love & hugs!👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩

  3. Yes! No matter where you are in life, or what trials you are facing, I believe there is always, always, always a reason to be kind and to learn from your environment. Youth is, as they say, truly wasted on the young!

    1. Hi Trish! Age is as they say, just a number. What matters most is how we live our life and committing to live it with a purpose.👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩

  4. I love the analogy to bloom where you are planted! You never know what can happen! Interestingly, my blog post today talks about how I ”bloomed” into a new flower and I couldn't be more proud of my age!! Bravo!


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