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What is Your Major Stress in Life?

What is your major stress in life? A few nights back, while queuing in a drive thru, my kids & I were talking about our personalities. We’re making fun of ourselves, and had a good laugh about it. On a serious side, I blurted out that I was a people pleaser. I wanted people to like me, and yes, it has been a major source of stress for me. It has been that way for me. I want to please my parents, siblings, teachers, classmates, bosses, co workers, hubby, kids, etc. I feel disappointment in myself, if I perceive that I don’t come up to their expectations. I feel ashamed of myself, if I deemed that I fail my children, whether imagined or not. These negative feeling does take a toll on my wellbeing. It took years learning this feeling of inadequacy, so it also took years to unlearn it. It is only through God’s mercy and love,  that I am able to accept myself, love myself. It is only through God’s unconditional love, that I am able to say, that  I  AM  ENOUGH.  I am a work in progress,

My Hermione Bag

What women don't forget to bring when they go out is a bag. We need a bag to hold the stuff we need, like a wallet or coin purse, a compact & a lipstick, a pack of tissue & we're good to go. Generally, there are two types of bag women use: 1. a small hand bag, enough to carry our basic essentials. 2. a large bag, big enough to hold all our staff.

The bag I bring is the second one, I can't do without a big bag. Not only is it big, but heavy as well, that it encumbers my movements. If I am walking between aisles, say in a drug store, I have to walk sideways so as not to bump the items on the racks. If I'm in a jeepney ( a public transport) I have to sit it in my lap sideways too, or else it will get in the way of the passenger besides me.While walking, it will slow me down, because it's heavy.

What in heaven's sake  is inside your bag that it is too heavy to tote around (you may ask)? My bag is a Hermione bag. "A what?" A Hermione bag. "Is that a branded bag?" My son coined that word for my kind of bag. One time I asked him to get my medicines inside my bag, as he was rummaging through it, he asked where I kept it and I said in my hello kitty purse. As he was digging inside my bag, he took out my bulging cream pouch, my folding umbrella, my nail kit, my sewing kit, my floss kit, my very full make up bag, my eyeglass case, my roll of tissue, a plastic pouch stuffed with underwear! Mommy, did you bring the whole house with you inside your bag(my son queried)? Your bag is too deep and there's still a lot of stuff in here, my son uttered in surprise. Mommy, your bag is a Hermione bag. I got what he meant because Hermione is the Hermione Jean Granger of Harry Potter the movie. She has this small purple beaded bag, inside which, holds many possessions and it if you give it a shake it sounds like it contains many heavy objects. "So that's a Hermione bag!"

My very own Hermione bag
I know a lot of you women out there has a Hermione bag like mine! We can't  go out of the house without toting a bag crammed with all the stuff we need. The pharmacy is in there, the dressmaker shop is in there, the salon is in there, the candy store is in there. What else did I miss? Well, we Mommies are like that, we are like girl scouts, ready for all kinds of emergencies. Mommies are dependable and ready for all sorts of malfunctions. A word of caution though, the maximum weight a shoulder bag should be is 10% of your body weight. A heavy bag is the cause of shoulder and neck pains so go easy on your Hermione bag!

Middle life is beautiful!

Till next time, God bless!


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